LONDON (Reuters) - Charming men can make dangerous lovers and are just as liable to abuse women as men who drink heavily or suffer stress, a British charity said on Monday. Refuge, a charity which works in the field of domestic violence and abuse, said most people have inaccurate stereotypical views of what an abusive man is like, and believe they can spot the tell-tale signs. "It's a myth that the macho man who drinks heavily and is under stress at work is more likely to abuse his partner," said Refuge chief executive Sandra Horley. "The charming man who wines and dines you is just as likely to abuse women...Is his attentiveness a form of possessiveness? Is he using his charm to manipulate and control you?" Horley asked. According to a Refuge opinion poll survey, 90 percent of Britons believe alcohol is one of the causes of domestic violence and four in 10 believe that women get a kick out of being beaten. "Domestic abuse knows no social, cultural or racial barriers and this survey shows us that society is out of touch," said Horley.